Big Girls don’t whine

I realised last couple of days, i had whine quite alot about life that I don’t want to be as such. I remembered Jill had this book- “Big girls don’t whine” by Jan Selvious. Picked it up and found it interesting to remind myself how I don’t want to act.The book started off by explaining that God intend for us to mature but many times we choose to be stay as little girls that delay/ holding back what God had planned for us to do. This book had helped me to identify one way or another the little girl in me that i needed to control…

Little girls…

1. Tends to be self-absorbed- generally unaware of others feelings and inflexible in accomodating other’s needs. Wants to be center of attention. Takes herself too seriously and would never dreamt of laughing at herself. Is convinced that others laugh at her anyways. Believes she should be good at everything and will refuse to admit others are better. Manipulative. Blames others ofr her restlessness or dissatisfation.

2. Lacks discretion, insight and wisdom- behaves inappropriately at important times and rarely thinks of consequences. Impulsive than thoughtful. Might flaunt her wealth or poor-mouth her poverty. Can’t manage her financial circumstances.

3. Makes others responsible for her happiness- dependent upon others for her sense of value and is highly influenced by what others say. No realisation that she, not her friends, husband, children is responsible for her own happiness. Always seeking other peoples approval and becomes angry if she doesn’t get it. Is attacted to someone to feel whole.

4. Avoids getting close to God- Angry and blames Him for troubles during pity parties but expects God to rescue her. Doesn’t know what she believes about God, but she knows a preacher who does and depends on him to tell her what’s what about spiritual matters. Recognise God has a plan for everybody but her.

5. Has a hard time being a wife- relates to her spouse as if he is her daddy, child or adversary.

6. Has a hard time being a mother- holds the children too long, causing them to be needy or indifferent of the needs…

7. Has a hard time being a friend- smother her friends or cut them off for minor infractions of her rules of friendship. She “use up” one or two friends at a time, exhausting them with expectation. A taker.

8. Takes a cynical approach to life and the future- believes her life to be of little value and see her future as bleak. Longs for good old days and refuse that good old days were “old days”. Sighs as each new day beins. Life is too hard and too demanding for her. Sees her old age as a threat and does not believe she has anything of value to pass on to future generation.

BIG girls…

1. cares more about others than herself- sensitive to others and her own needs. Flexible, caring and kind. Generous towards those who have less. Asset at workplace. Doesn’t whine!

2. Possess remarkable discretion, insight and wisdom- sensible and reasonable. advise is sound and reliable. Knows when to speak and when to be silent. Doesn’t force herself into spotlight when it belongs to someone else. Knows how to handle situation that could be uncomfortable. responsible and holds herself accountable. Doesn’t spend hours on the end, in the “if only” and “what if” patch

3. Understands that she is responsible for her own happiness- comfortable in her own skin, own age, own place in history. Doesn’t need to seek approbal from otheres. Willing to admit what she is good and not good at. Keen to improve.

4. Invited God to be a part of all that she does – love and respect God in good and bad days

5. Embraces her role as a wife- respects the husband. understand her role and his role in a marriage

6. Understands what it means to be a good mother- let their children go…

7. delights in being a good friend

8. Sees her life as valuable but fleeting- looks into the future knowing she will leave a legacy, good or bad. avoids looking back to old days. Appreciate the past but looks at each day as “the day which the LORD has made”. Sees her age as precious, and heavan as her ultimate destination.

BIG GIRLS DON”T WHINE!!!! a great reminder for myself…

Something to cheer Sharon up!

Drive me away!!!!

Rachel PLEASE SHARE!

Sharon’s sheep? i think we have a few sheeps missing from this pic

Trish… are you coming back yet?

Bukit Tabur

Last Saturday, 17 of us went hiking at Bukit Tabur. Few things that popped up in my mind during my 4 half hour hike.

1. God is such an amazing God.

As 17 of us started going on the trail, we tend to split into two groups. Some were slower, some were faster. What was nice was Jorhan and Bernard took turns to take the lead in the pack while, Esther, Van, Hao Ying and myself took turns to stay between the girls to make sure everything was ok. Vince took the last man to ensure nobody got left behind.

2. My thoughts was- a leader of the pack always had to go to the back of the pack to help and support those who are slower and the allow and trust the next best in skills/ spiritually to lead the front bit.

3. Some of us was so engrossed of just wanting to move faster upwards and forgotten to stop to look at the beautiful scenary from high up. There’s were Joel enjoy his shots… i guess, in life, the same.. we kept on climbing the corporate ladder.. just kept stepping that we forgot to stop, look what God had done in our life…

4. Seeing 2 of my girls struggle to keep up to the front pack, persevere on, pressed on, climbed on thought scratches and bruises didn’t stop them and soon enjoying the climb was encouraging.

5. My feet hurts so bad on the way down. I wish they had flying fox down!

Here’s one of the picture i like…

That day, we are all conquerors.

Re-cap

Laksa that Van cooked CHicken wing that we fought for at Yuen SKY’s birthday Sushi at 1u My Halloween dancers